**Vicarious World Special** Jersey Campbell and NYC Robert: Women and Dating Evolution Pt. I

Hello ladies and gentlemen, Vicarious World presents another heated discussion between Jersey Campbell and NYC Robert.
In this edition, J. Camps and NYC Rob share a few thoughts on traditional dating practices. It begins with Mr. Campbell questioning why we still practice what he calls "outdated" dating protocol, and it ends with Mr. Campbell desperately trying to defend himself from NYC Rob's accusations of sexism. Wanna know how we got there? Read, and be merry.

Dating: Has texting gone too far? by NYC Robert

Texting has changed the spectrum of communication completely. It's a quick and easy way to tell someone something, and has it's own language. From acronym's to facial expressions, many different things can be said in a text.

What type of questions should you ask on a date? by NYC Robert

Going on a date should be exciting, fun, and interesting. However, sometimes you may not ask the right questions. The right questions are opened-ended. They allow for conversation; and as a result you learn more about the other person. What you don’t want to do is ask closed-ended questions because they don’t allow for conversation. They’re more abrupt and lead to short conversation. These include questions like: what do you do for a living? Do you like fruits? Do you like the beach? Each one of those questions could be answered with a single statement, or a few words; and that is not what you want if you’re interested in someone. A date is to find out more about how someone thinks, behaves, and responds to certain things you do, and say. So, if you aren’t very good at asking opened-ended question here are some you can use. These will also help you make your own.

*Vicarious World's Best of the Month*

At the conclusion of every month Vicarious World’s team of writers comes up with a totally arbitrary list of our top blog posts during that time. It is the crème de la crème of Vicarious World, the most noteworthy, thought-provoking 2-3 pages of literature (can we call it that?) that we present to you.

This month, our best of the month includes the safe way to get the youngsters involved in drugs, a surprisingly weak defense for the bad guys, two non-experts debating a semi-serious topic, and a couple of poems that you may want to read in total privacy. Here is the "Best of the Month."

NYC Robert:The Dating Scheme Upside Down

Many women are a lot more attractive in their prime (20-30years old), I’d say, then when they’re older. I know many of you can agree with that, but if you can’t just take a look out your window.

NYC Robert: How to Avoid "The Friend Zone"

The Friend Zone isn't a place you want to be if you're trying to pursue someone because your chances with them may be over.

Have you ever liked someone, but as you got to know them better you felt they'd be a better friend then significant other? By you having those feeling you just placed that person in the Friend Zone. My next question is have you ever been placed in the Friend Zone by someone you liked? If you have, don't be ashamed it happens all the time. Also, keep in mind you may have done it to someone yourself. The real reason for this post is to avoid the Friend Zone. So..if you have ever been placed in the Friend Zone, and don't want that to happen again keep reading.

NYC Robert: The definition a "Date"

So here’s the truth about the meaning of a date…There isn’t one. Yeah you heard me. So the term ‘Date’ that many people have passed down from generation to generation is indeed false. But no worries, I’m going to set things right. First off let me say this there are two terms here Date and Date Date. Now let’s go to class.

NYC Robert: They Never Texted, Called, or Emailed Me Back!

Is every one on one outing you go on with a new person or friend a date date? I say no. Two people can schedule a meet up and go to a place without it being a date. However, there is a lot of skepticism within that. In many cases one of the two people may feel it’s a date, and the other may not, or they both can think it’s a date, but they really aren’t sure so they ponder the thought. You see how weird this is. Why can’t two people just go somewhere without this thought in their minds?

NYC Robert: Why do women cheat? Is it the Karma?

Why do women cheat? Is it the want, the need, or just the desire of another man? Since there can be many reasons I needed to get the perspective of females on this. I interviewed several women and got many different answers. The interviews consisted of women between the ages of twenty-two to thirty-five, of various demographics. With the answers I received it was clear to me that I would have to specify a trait to this because there are a million reasons why. So I thought of KARMA. My definition of Karma is what goes around comes around, and then some.

NYC Robert: Relationships and the phone, should your significant other know your password?

Today's topic came to me after listening to the radio late one night. The host was asking callers what they think about their significant other having the password to their cell phone. Before she took a caller I thought to myself that I wouldn't have a problem with my significant other having the password to my phone. But I would have a problem with her going through my phone without asking. Some of you may say, "well what do you have to hide?" And I would say, "I have nothing to hide. It’s just that I feel if my partner trusts me why is there a need to go through my phone?" So my question for those of you who feel you should know your partner’s password is: why? What is the purpose of you having it? Now, I'm not saying I wouldn't give her the password, but what puzzles me is if she has her own phone how come she needs mine?

NYC Robert: Wifey? Are all women the same?

Do most women assume the man they're dating is with them for the long haul? This question came to me after listening to various women talk of their relationships and experiences. From those conversations I discovered that women do have intentions to be with their man for the long haul, or awhile. However, women don't come out and say that's the man they may marry. Although, the marriage part is very far out there, it’s a mere thought in women’s heads. Ladies, do you remember those days when you were very young, and thought of your wedding day. A beautiful sunny day, all your family and friends, and of course you looking amazingly beautiful.

Let's flip the track. We just viewed the question from a females point, now let's see the males. I asked various men and got many different answers. Immediately we have a difference. The men didn't have much thought about long term. It was more sexual, financial, or emotional. Ladies don't get me wrong us men do want you'll for many other good reasons. However, we don't seek the same thing from every woman.

NYC Robert: What is really going through her damn? head? Is it us?

Why is it that women assume men know what they're thinking? They rarely come straight out and say how they feel, but what they do is send "messages." The kicker is we have no damn clue as to which is for what. So in return we get into arguments about why we don't understand them thus, making the women sad. So ladies why can't you come out and say what's really bothering you. We men aren’t geniuses and we don't know how to always cater to your needs 24/7.

NYC Robert: Why do men cheat?

Topic: Why do men cheat.

I've thought long and hard about what would make a man cheat on his significant other. What I've concluded is that there are several possibilities, but I think the main reason is that he doesn't want to deal with all the drama. When I say that think of the 80/20 rule. That's when your significant other is really the best thing, but you two have been together for so long that you don't notice. All you notice is the arguments, complaining, and a person who just seems not do as much as you would like them to. So when the (20) comes around fun, exciting, and of course attractive you jump ship. It may be for a bang bang, or more of an emotional connection. Whatever the case you end up getting involved, you may cheat, or pursue the person.

Let's go deeper into that 80/20 rule.