NYC Robert: Why do men cheat?

Topic: Why do men cheat.

I've thought long and hard about what would make a man cheat on his significant other. What I've concluded is that there are several possibilities, but I think the main reason is that he doesn't want to deal with all the drama. When I say that think of the 80/20 rule. That's when your significant other is really the best thing, but you two have been together for so long that you don't notice. All you notice is the arguments, complaining, and a person who just seems not do as much as you would like them to. So when the (20) comes around fun, exciting, and of course attractive you jump ship. It may be for a bang bang, or more of an emotional connection. Whatever the case you end up getting involved, you may cheat, or pursue the person.

Let's go deeper into that 80/20 rule. 

Before a relationship a man obviously sees that beautiful girl and say's to himself, "man she's beautiful." He then gets the courage to walk over and talk to her. They talk and its going well. Now In that guy's mind he doesn't think about making that girl sad, depressed, or ruining her life. He also isn't thinking about all the needs she has such as feeling safe, comforted, and needed, or like the only girl in the world. Bottom line every girl wants to feel those four things. Feeling safe can mean being financially stable especially if their are children involved. Comforted- when she's down or having a bad day she wants you to know and to be there, not out with the boys. Needed- she wants you to act as if she's the most important thing in YOUR LIFE, and in doing these things she thus can feel like the only girl in the world. Why? because you're there for her and when she sees other couples she thinks of the man she has. Or, whenever there's something wrong she know you'll be there for her. 

Now let's back track. He sees that pretty girl, goes up and talks to her, and none of what I just mentioned went through his head. So when will he find out? After all the great dates, and wonderful times spent together they finally get together. And now is when all this starts. He's been with her about two years now, and may now feel locked in. Why? because he may not have been expecting all of what I mentioned. However, she is the (80). This guy now just wants to have fun, and live life. He meets a chick who's interesting at first, but doesn't compare to what he has( He doesn't know that yet). So he probably thinks she's a good girl. Why? because they haven't bang banged and its been awhile so he thinks she's a good one, not to mention she's very interesting. What he doesn't know is that this chick may have bills out the wazoo, no education, living her with parents, and is almost thirty. He has no clue, he's blinded by her beauty, and cool tone, which is the side of her she wants him to see. To add, she may think he's cool too. She doesn't know of his life that much, especially the fact that he has a girl, so it appears cool. Obviously, this guy is in emotional cheat mode. He hasn't banged the chick, but still hangs with her and talks. Its his disguise to get away from his girl.

So why did this man do it? Is it cause his life felt overwhelmed with tending to someone else's needs. But what about him, he has needs. When are they going to get filled? In bed. HAHA(not really laughing). Sex doesn't solve everything ladies. I feel many women don't pay enough attention to the man they have because he treats them well, which then ironically results to them not being treated well.

I'd like to also add that when I say "man" I don't mean those guys who have intentions on cheating. No. those guys are just dogs. I mean the guys who don't have the intent and have clearly not seen the picture. Nonetheless, I do think in both cases it's wrong.