Friday, August 19, 2011

NYC Robert: Relationships and the phone, should your significant other know your password?

Today's topic came to me after listening to the radio late one night. The host was asking callers what they think about their significant other having the password to their cell phone. Before she took a caller I thought to myself that I wouldn't have a problem with my significant other having the password to my phone. But I would have a problem with her going through my phone without asking. Some of you may say, "well what do you have to hide?" And I would say, "I have nothing to hide. It’s just that I feel if my partner trusts me why is there a need to go through my phone?" So my question for those of you who feel you should know your partner’s password is: why? What is the purpose of you having it? Now, I'm not saying I wouldn't give her the password, but what puzzles me is if she has her own phone how come she needs mine?

I don't want to discuss this from only a one sided view. By that I mean sometimes it's the female who doesn't want to give the password out. So now should I ask what does she has to hide? Some of you say yes! But honestly if someone isn't being loyal to you then you'll find out one day.

Let's look at this from a trust perspective by playing a joke on your significant other. Every time they touch your phone go crazy. Why? Because clearly if someone always asking to use your phone when theirs is fully functional, and yours is nowhere in sight, then they want to check up on you. So I say don't give it to them, just go crazy, and then show them everything in your phone. Prove to them they don't trust you.


  1. You make a lot of good points and a lot of "yeah," points. I agree that if both partners trust each other then it there's no need to look through phones. But how many couple totally trust each other? That lingering doubt is always there, and even if one was to check their partner's phone and not find anything, the mere fact that they want to check it means that trust is gone. It's not gonna come back because your phone is clean, you'll just be off the hook for that brief period of time before the doubt creeps back up. It's a lose-lose.

  2. @Jersey Campbell. Good point so why do some significant other do it? Should they just leave their partner?, or stay with the doubt?

  3. There's no point in being in a relationship if you don't trust the other person. Trust is like virginity, once you lose it, its impossible to gain it back.
    On the other hand, if your partner secretly checks your phone and finds nothing theoretically that would alleviate their worries.

  4. @Jersey... your going a little too far w/ referring trust to virginity brah...two different sides of the spectrum... trust is extremely hard to gain back because of in the back of your mind there is doubt- but it get be redeem over for virginity once it’s gone there is no coming back...

    Plus virginity is a onetime thing w/ one person..

    Trust/distrust on the other hand lingers in people.. not just one singular person.