Saturday, October 8, 2011

What type of questions should you ask on a date? by NYC Robert

Going on a date should be exciting, fun, and interesting. However, sometimes you may not ask the right questions. The right questions are opened-ended. They allow for conversation; and as a result you learn more about the other person. What you don’t want to do is ask closed-ended questions because they don’t allow for conversation. They’re more abrupt and lead to short conversation. These include questions like: what do you do for a living? Do you like fruits? Do you like the beach? Each one of those questions could be answered with a single statement, or a few words; and that is not what you want if you’re interested in someone. A date is to find out more about how someone thinks, behaves, and responds to certain things you do, and say. So, if you aren’t very good at asking opened-ended question here are some you can use. These will also help you make your own.

1.       If you could choose to be any animal, what would it be, and why?
2.       If you could have any career, what would choose, and why?
3.       What’s the most special gift anyone has ever given you, and why?
4.       If you had the ability to change a law which one would you change, and how would you change it?
5.       Where would want to go for vacation and why?

If you haven’t noticed by now, all of those questions have something in common. They each have two parts. The first part is the question: “If you could choose to be any animal, what would it be?” That’s one question. And then when you ask, “Why?” that prompts the person to go into detail. That is the part when you really get to find out a person’s thoughts, and they get to see your response to their answers. They could also do the same for you of course. That’s the sole purpose of these types of questions; to find out what your date is about. 

So, if you are getting ready for a date and don’t want to blow it because lack of conversation, write a few questions down. That way you don’t have to think so much during the date. Also, make sure the questions you create fit your personality. There's no point in making questions where you have no input, or can't relate. In other words, make the questions open-ended for both sides. If you do everything correct you'll notice a steady flow of conversation during your date, and that's exactly what you want.

By now you're probably asking your self, "Will this work?" I can confidently say nine times out of ten this will work. The only reason I'm not giving it a ten is because you may not know your date very well. They could be a very shy person, or just having a bad day. And no matter what type of question you ask you'll only get a one word answer, or short answer, which will lead to an interrogation event, and possibly tiring you out. Even up to the point where you don't want to get to know the person anymore. Is that your fault? No. It just means you two are not compatible. Nevertheless, nine times out of ten is pretty good, and I'm sure you can agree with that. So start making your questions and go on that date with confidence.


  1. Does these questions work for both dates and DATE DATEs? Why?

  2. @ Jersey Campbell- This would work in both cases because opened-questions are to find out more about a person, and how they think. That's why I didn't really specify it's for a date or Date Date.

  3. Thanks Rob, I'll be asking some of these questions on my next date.